God has such a sense of humor. Very appropriately, I suppose, Dave and I have been in a bit of a fight for the last week. Mainly it has occurred because of conflicting schedules and things that absolutely had to be done and all of the time for “us” being squeezed out by obligations and “good” things.
Then someone’s feelings get hurt and they don’t say anything about it, but they do respond with shortness and more of an edge. The other person then gets their feelings hurt and addresses the issue as soon as they see it, but alas, the other party is so hurt by the initial thing that they did not mention, that now the first party can’t deal with the second party’s issue. He’s not respected and she’s not loved. Soon full tilt arguing and fighting ensue. Toe to toe, full blown crazy cycle. Sound confusing? Sound familiar?` Yeah, me too!
I am so excited about the “Fight Club” series that we are beginning at church this month. Our small group did the “Love and Respect” study this series is based on about two years ago. It completely revolutionized the way Dave and I processed things and I know it had a tremendous impact on the other members of our group as well.
You may be wondering, as I was at first, who’s job it is to stop the crazy cycle and start giving first? Dr. Emerson Eggerich, who wrote the book, states that it is whomever is the most mature. Ouch! I certainly didn’t like to hear that. He goes on to explain more. Stay tuned this month and find out how to get off the crazy cycle, stay off, and build a marriage that honors God and will impact not only your children, but your children’s children, even unto a thousand generations!
9 Know therefore that the LORD your God is God; he is the faithful God, keeping his covenant of love to a thousand generations of those who love him and keep his commands.