Today Dave and I gave an interview on our family’s Valentine tips on Girlfriendit Radio. We had a short, 15 minute segment to discuss ways we kept love and marriage alive in our family while in the stressful world of church planting. Here are a few things we discussed, in case you missed it:
1) Pray Together, Valentine Tips 1 – This is really huge and as Dave was commenting today, something guys either think has to be a really huge effort and so they don’t do it or they think it’s not that big of a deal and they don’t do it. We have been married 20 1/2 years and it wasn’t until recently that Dave was challenged to make a huge effort in this area and to lead our family this way. It has made a big difference for me as his wife. It helps set the tone for the day. It says to me, “Together with God, no matter what happens today, I’ve got your back and you’ve got mine…now GO!” And we rush off to our respective duties.
2) Date Night, Valentine Tips 2 – There have been seasons when this was virtually impossible to do outside our home. So during those times, we made an effort to get the kids off to bed early and guarded a quiet time for us alone at night. Now our eldest is 15 and his sister is 12 so we have some incredible babysitters built right in to care for our two younger ones that we didn’t have when the older ones were little. We can go out to eat or grab coffee or meet with another couple now for relatively free. I don’t know about you, but there was a time we couldn’t afford to go out to eat AND pay a baby sitter.
3) Family Devotions, Valentine Tips 3 – This is another area that we do rather sporadically. I think a lot of families think this needs to be a bigger production than it has to be. For us, we spend time reading bible stories to our kids at night, but usually only when they are really young. As they have gotten older, we have changed the game. Now we assign roles to each of the four kids. One will pray, one will lead worship, one will give the talk, and one will either give communion or some other part of a worship service. It doesn’t last very long and it doesn’t have to be perfect, but it does give our kids the opportunity to lead our family and share what God is teaching them.
4) Valentine Family Fondue Night, Valentine Tips 4 – I blogged about this in a earlier post this week, but when we moved to Charlotte, necessity forced us to create some new Valentines Day traditions. You can read more about how we did that here, but suffice it to say, we discovered doing chocolate fondue for Valentines night was a wonderful way to celebrate together as a family on Valentines Day. If Dave and I want to go out alone or with another couple we either do it before or after Valentines Day so we can avoid all the crowd, cost and craziness involved.
And that was about all the time we had to share our Valentine Tips on Girlfriendit Radio. You can find out more about them via the link on their name.